Re: Adopted Kids. Here Are Mine. Any Objections?

Walter Olson’s guest post, below, hit a nerve with me — I guess because the sad trend he writes about casts my two adopted daughters, and my family, as both less whole and less wholesome than “regular” (biological) families.

Evidently, the National Organization for Marriage wants it that way. Although my own marriage (straight and strong, 18 years and counting) presumably passes muster with NOM, I don’t plan to sidle up to the organization anytime soon. I’ve written in favor of marriage equality many times, which presumably puts me on NOM’s shit list (and, not to be too holy about it, it is on my shit list too). That’s all fine.

But here’s my problem (and Walter’s): Big chunks of the religious right have gone from supporting adoption to using it as a opportunistic weapon against gay marriage. And that hurts families with adopted kids — whether the parents are gay or straight. That’s not fine. This one, for me, hits closer to home than ever.

So here’s what I’ve decided: If people honestly decide to argue that my family somehow falls short in moral standing, or lacks legitimacy in any way, I’d like to invite them to emerge from their digital lair and engage me and my wife and kids face to face.

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Please understand that this is not a mere gauntlet slap, but an effort to exchange ideas and perhaps spread some clarity. How about it, NOM?

That’s a photo of my girls (and that’s me on the left). Look at their faces and then, any of you, please come to our home and explain to us why we are not a real family, and why my marriage isn’t as genuine as yours. Or we can do this by Skype, if you’d prefer.

Seriously, consider this a social offer. Come visit if you can. I’ll cook. We’ll talk. I will try to meet any of your objections with logic and reason; and when our brains begin to throb and our throats get sore, we’ll switch track, and the four members of my family, me included, will simply be living proof of our familial love. Observe us for a few hours. We won’t mind.

I hope you will then report back to your base what you found.

Open invitation. Anytime, anyplace.

Death Threats for ‘Stomp on Jesus’ Professor

The Florida professor who offended millions by allegedly making students “stomp” on a piece of paper with the word Jesus on it has broken his silence.

No doubt he’s got plenty of time for interviews now that, after a deluge of death threats, his university has decided to place him on leave.

The mid-March kerfuffle at Florida Atlantic University happened when the instructor, Dr. Deandre Poole, who taught an intercultural communications class, asked his students to write the word Jesus on a sheet of paper and then step on it. One Mormon student refused and was suspended by the university. Soon, outside protests came pouring in, including a scathing letter from Florida’s Republican governor Rick Scott. The school then apologized for both the disciplinary action and the professor’s exercise.

So far, we’ve had little but the student’s version of events to go on, but now Poole (photo) has told his side of the story to Inside Higher Ed.

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And what do we learn?

• Far from being a Jesus-mocking heathen, Poole is a lifelong church-going Christian and former Sunday-school teacher who describes himself as “very religious.”

• The student exercise, Poole says, involved stepping (not “stomping,” as Fox News and others alleged) on the sheet of paper.

• The exercise was meant to demonstrate that some students would feel inhibited about stepping on something that 15 seconds earlier had been a random, insignificant piece of paper. This would give everyone an opening to discuss symbols and their meaning.

• Poole says it made no difference to him whether the students stepped on the paper or not. Most didn’t, and that was fine, he explains, as their discomfort was intended precisely to jumpstart the discussion.

• The suspension of the angry student was the result of the student’s aggressive behavior after class, claims Poole. The young man allegedly slammed his fist into his palm and told the instructor he wanted to hit him (although the student’s attorney denies this ever happened). Alarmed, Poole notified campus security and filed a report on the student.

In revisiting this Christian tempest in a teapot, we can see that at the very least, things are a little less clear-cut than the Christian-right outrage machine made them seem.

Now let’s look at what America’s very own Taliban had to say when they contacted Poole.

He said he has received hate mail and death threats, some of them coming in forms particularly hurtful to an African American. “One of the threats said that I might find myself hanging from a tree,” he said. [H]e has had some days that he did not feel safe at his home and so stayed elsewhere.

On Friday, Florida Atlantic University announced that the threats against the professor had become so numerous that

Poole has been placed on paid leave because his safety could not be assured on campus.

Yet again, the love of Jesus’ followers shines through bright and clear.

[photo via Inside Higher Ed]

God Less Likely To Perform Tricks for Educated

If you want to witness a miracle, it helps if you’re not too edumacated, televangelist Pat Robertson opined yesterday.

On Monday’s episode of CBN’s The 700 Club, Robertson responded to a viewer who wanted to know why “amazing miracles (people raised from the dead, blind eyes open, lame people walking) happen with great frequency in places like Africa, and not here in the USA?”

“People overseas didn’t go to Ivy League schools,” the TV preacher laughed. “We’re so sophisticated, we think we’ve got everything figured out. We know about evolution, we know about Darwin, we know about all these things that says God isn’t real.”

“We have been inundated with skepticism and secularism,” he conintued. “And overseas, they’re simple, humble. You tell ‘em God loves ‘em and they say, ‘Okay, he loves me.’ You say God will do miracles and they say, ‘Okay, we believe him.’”

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I actually don’t disagree with Robertson on this one. Undoubtedly, the best antidote to superstition and religious flimflam is critical thinking, which correlates with education. An uneducated man sees a faith-healing trick and says “Praise God.” An educated man sees the same trick and says “Nice try.”

As regular readers of this blog know, the countries with the highest populations of atheists also score best for IQ. Moreover, the higher the overall levels of education, the less religious adherence. One study found that each additional year of school leads to a four-percentage-point decline in the likelihood that a person identifies as religious.

Incidentally, I wonder — I’m genuinely curious here — if the same effect is true for students at highly religious schools. Anyone know?

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Jesus-Loving African Witch Hunters Target Kids

Via Hemant Mehta.

‘Derogatory’ Bloggers in Custody in Bangladesh

Glad police in Bangladesh are cracking down on dangerous crime.

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Police arrested three persons, including a student of Dhaka University, from different parts of the capital Monday night for writing “derogatory contents about Islam and Prophet Mohammad (pbuh)” on different Internet platforms.

The arrests came hot on the heels of a campaign by radical Islamist organisations which threatened of non-stop shutdown and tougher agitation if “atheist bloggers”, as they termed them, are not executed.

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Collaborate and Live. Fight Each Other and Die.

Dr. Abdullah Badr, an Egyptian Muslim scholar, said during a conference last week (video here) that a true Muslim should love and help fellow Muslims, but that it’s a believer’s duty to hate non-Muslims.

He explained that he is “disgusted” by Christians; so much so that, if a Christian were to touch his cup, he’d refuse to drink from it.

On the nominal Christian side, such scurrilous buffoonery is matched by hotheads like Ann Coulter. The hateful hussy once famously remarked that the West “should invade [Muslim] countries, kill their leaders and convert them to Christianity.”

It’s only fair to point out that one or two prominent atheists advocate similar solutions. Take Ayaan Hirsi Ali, who told a Reason interviewer that Islam must be attacked and crushed, militarily “and in all forms.”

It’s enough to drive a man to exasperation.

I came across this picture today — three drowned deer, their antlers interlocked — and thought I’d share it here; it seemed like a sadly apt metaphor for how militant faith and humanity’s fate are all tangled up together.

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Burka Bicyclists

Women in Saudi Arabia may now ride bicycles, provided they adhere to “modest” dress codes and are in the presence of a male guardian.

Which somehow reminded me of this old NSFW Queen video — a mullah’s nightmare. You’re welcome.

‘The Will of God’: Son Murders Father in Church

Mysterious ways:

Witnesses say the 25-year-old man accused of walking into an Ohio church and fatally shooting his father after an Easter service Sunday was yelling about God and Allah after the killing.

Police say Reshad Riddle killed his father, 52-year-old Richard Riddle, with a single shot from a handgun Sunday afternoon at the Hiawatha Church of God in Christ in Ashtabula, OH.

Reshad Riddle takes a selfie.

Reshad Riddle takes a selfie.

Associate Pator Sean Adams … said that after the shooting, Reshad Riddle continued into the church, still holding the gun, and yelled that the killing was “the will of Allah. This is the will of God.”

[image via CBS News]

Lego: The Muslim Empire Strikes Back

If you want proof that religion and child-like make-belief are indistinguishable, have I got a story for you. No, it’s not an April Fool’s joke. From the U.K. Independent:

Austria’s Turkish community claimed a victory in its fight against Danish toy giant Lego yesterday after the firm agreed to withdraw a Star Wars toy set featuring a mosque-like building inhabited by an obese, hookah–smoking alien, following complaints that it was anti-Muslim.

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Lego added the “Jabba’s Palace” playset to its Star Wars collection in 2012. But in January this year the set started to provoke outrage in Austria’s Islamic community after a Muslim father found that his sister had given one to his son as a present.

Outrage, as you’ve probably noticed, is Islamic believers’ perennial state. If Muslim countries ever run out of oil, I’m sure their citizens can learn to fuel their cars just by tapping into that always-boiling subdural fury they carry with them.

The Lego game, which is aimed at children aged from nine to 14, features Jabba the Hutt in his intergalactic lair. Jabba, the slug-like villain who first appeared in the 1983 film Return of the Jedi, lives in a domed, oriental-looking building equipped with rockets and machine guns. He also smokes a water pipe and keeps Princess Leia in chains for use as his personal slave.

Furious Muslim critics complained that the Lego set’s Asian and oriental figures were “deceitful and criminal” characters such as gun-runners, slave masters and terrorists.

Oh, also,

Critics claimed that the palace had an uncanny resemblance to Istanbul’s Hagia Sophia mosque.

Well, so what? Catholics had an unpleasant slug living in their big fancy God-palace for years, and you didn’t hear them complain about it.

A Debt, a Daughter, and an Islamic Solution

Tribal customs, culture, and religion are often inextricably linked, and such is the case here:

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Taj Mohammad, a resident of an Afghan refugee camp, where he lives with his wife and eight children, says his six-year-old daughter Naghma is collateral for a loan.

If, as seems likely, Mr. Mohammad cannot repay his debt to a fellow camp resident a year from now, his daughter, a smiling, slender child with a tiny gold stud in her nose, will be forced to leave her family’s home forever — to be married to the lender’s 17-year-old son. …

Because Naghma, whose name means melody, was not chosen by the groom, she will most likely be treated more like a family servant than a spouse — and at worst as a captive slave. Her presence may help the groom attract a more desirable second wife because the family, although poor, will have someone working for it, insulating the chosen wife from some of the hardest tasks.

Taj Mohammad and his wife do not want their daughter to leave them.

“We call her ‘Peshaka,’ ” he said, using the Pashto word for kitten. “She is a very lovely girl. Everybody in our family loves her, and even if she fights with her older brothers, we don’t say anything, we give her all possible happiness.”

He added: “I believe that when she goes to that house, she will die soon. She will not receive all the love she receives from us, and I am afraid she will lose her life. A 6-year-old girl doesn’t know about having a mother-in-law, a father-in-law, or having a husband or being a wife.”

Perhaps Naghma can stay with her own family after all: The day the Times published the story, a group led by an American lawyer offered to pay Taj Mohammad’s debt. That’s wonderful — a story of rescue and redemption, a Disney movie in the making. I’m genuinely happy for Naghma. But, as one Times commenter pointed out,

When Westerners intervene with money to buy slaves, all it does is create a new industry — the taking of slaves specifically to be redeemed with Western donations. This is why some governments forbid or refuse to pay ransoms for hostages or captured soldiers. Once outside money enters the picture, the game is on. Like most readers. I am disgusted, horrified and saddened by this story, but what monster will we create by interfering?

I don’t have the answers either. Religion plays a villainous role in this cultural clusterfuck, but that’s nothing new.

Let’s just affirm that Naghma got another chance at a decent life; surely, that’s worth a muted celebration. One down, millions of Muslim girls to go.

Nigerian Believers Perpetrate Attacks, Reprisals

Nigeria’s people of faith just can’t stop spreading divine love.

At least 36 people have died and dozens of houses have been burned in religious clashes central Nigeria over the past week. The military said on Saturday that the latest casualties were in addition to at least 23 people killed in attacks in the volatile region on March 20 and 21.

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Violence since Monday has seen ethnic Fulani Muslims raid Christian villages in Plateau state, an area where thousands have been killed or displaced in recent years in a cycle of attacks and reprisalsPlateau is in the so-called Middle Belt region which divides the mainly Christian south and mostly Muslim north of Africa’s most populous nation. The latest attack occurred late on Thursday in the Barkin Ladi area, Lieutenant Jude Akpa, a security task force spokesman, said. “Unknown gunmen suspected to be Fulanis attacked and killed nine persons there and three were injured,” he said. …

[T]he assailants, armed with assault rifles, struck a village called Ratas and opened fire in the night while many there were sleeping. Witnesses said that the shooting lasted for almost two hours before the attackers fled.

[image via Al Jazeera]

Oz Orthodox Jews Rocked By Sex Scandal

A former vice president of the Executive Council of Australian Jews has begun dedicating much of his time to calling out Jewish child sex abuse that he claims was (or perhaps is) pervasive in his country.

“It’s been endemic within the ultra-Orthodox Jewish community — both the abuses and the cover-ups. There’s enough evidence to support that,” [Menachem] Waks says. “There are so many cases, so many allegations, so many perpetrators, so many victims and so many more allegations yet to be revealed.”

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Waks (photo) says that he himself was molested as a student at Chabad’s Yeshivah College in the 1980s,

…not once, but several times, and not by one person, but by two: a security guard and the son of a venerated Chabad emissary. Waks said he was molested in a synagogue and in a ritual bath, where he was lured to bathe in the nude by his alleged assailant. …

In August, Yeshivah Center, the college’s parent body, apologized “unreservedly” for “any historical wrongs that may have occurred.”

That feeble, non-specific apology does nothing to help kids who were sexually assaulted by the pious adults who were supposed to take care of them. And happily enough, it doesn’t mean much in terms of the justice system either: pretty words notwithstanding, this year, three cases of Yeshiva College abuse will be examined in Australian courts, and Waks says he has only just begun.

[image by Tony Fink via Times of Israel]